The Church's Largest Secret

Over half of all men in the church are struggling with pornography.

That is a fact.

The sad part is, I had to figure this out for myself.

I have gone to church nearly all my life and I had never heard anyone talk about pornography. I didn't even know it existed. Until one day, when I was 12...

I felt like I had just walked into this secret hidden world that only I knew existed.

And it all went downhill from there.

It went from a curious interest to a mild fascination and from there is was just a hop and a skip away from obsession and addiction.

But I didn't know that anyone else struggled with this, that-in fact-the problem was far more common than not. I didn't think I had anyone to turn to.

And so I kept it a secret.

The problem with keeping your sins in the dark is that in the darkness is where sin thrives.

I was discouraged, thinking that there was no hope for me. Just a short time later, I found an amazing Christian woman who seemed to maybe kinda like me and we were married.
The issue obviously resurfaced not too long into our lives, ending our newlywed bliss.

At this point, I reached out even further, asking friends and even an older pastor I knew and trusted about it. This pastor listend and promised to help, call, and send materials...each of which never happened.

Why is it so hard to recieve help on this issue?!

I've had to look online, buy books, search the Bible and pray constantly to gain some semblence of control in my life, which usually doesn't last very long.

My wife, after almost two straight years of struggling with this issue, still has not left me and swears that she'll help me overcome this. She is the reason I've gained what little control I have over this issue.

My wife is the sweetest most lovely woman in the world. She has her faults to be sure, but she has remained by my side literally for better or worse--and there's been a whole lot more worse than better. I could not ask for a better helpmeet or person to share my life with. I thank God that He sent her into my life.

So, what help is there for those of us who have noone? Perhaps you're not lucky enough to have a wife like mine. Perhaps pornography has ruined your marriage. Perhaps you've gone everywhere looking for help, going to those you trusted only to be let down and shunned afterwards.

If this is you, there is STILL hope. You are NOT the only one who struggles with this issue.

If you have no one to talk to, I would be more than happy to help. You can email me anytime at themaninthepew@yahoo.com

And, if you need someone to talk to personally, I can either find someone in your area for you to talk to or we can set up a time to talk via phone.

Either way, I would be more than happy to help.

Remember, you are not alone. This is something that every man struggles with.

It is a war. A war for your mind, for you heart, for your marriage.

It's a war for your soul.